Category: tranquilosophy

Tranquilosophy: Birthdays


The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and they day you find out why. —Mark Twain

On Sunday I turned 46 and, in between migraines, basked in the generous receipt of well wishes. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

This year’s birthday came at the perfect time—after June’s numerous in-person and online events and before Italy retreat time. Most of the week’s meals included vegan strawberry cupcakes and cake (how-to here). On Friday, I sipped tea with a friend and hosted the Tranquility du Jour Daybook Virtual Launch Fête. Saturday I took my first beginner ballet 2 class and indulged in brunch at Ladurée with a girlfriend. On my birthday, I took a yoga class at Tranquil Space/YogaWorks, nursed two migraines, and savored dinner at DC’s go-to fancy vegan spot, Fancy Radish.

Birthdays beckon reflection. Since mine falls mid-year, it serves as a useful tune up. What’s working? What needs attention? What experiences have I had since my 2018 birthday? What experiences do I hope to have by my 2020 birthday?

When I reviewed my 2019 wishes, I noted half of my intentions had manifested. A few included: Year of Tranquility conversion into a book, three healthy pugs and kitty, finish Journal Therapy certificate, thriving private practice, and meaningful retreats.

Here’s a sampling of uncompleted ones: published articles (never submitted), thriving garden (not enough sun for veggies, focusing on flowers), finish veterinary social work program (pushed back completion to early 2020 to align with their scheduled summit), and 25% less stuff (need to schedule more declutter days).

While it’s easy to get frustrated on what didn’t happen, I find it more useful to note what isn’t on the list and did happen such as TDJ Soiree, a mini ballet performance, and the new Daybook. Reviewing the 2019 wishes serves as a reminder to submit articles, declutter, and nurture what is feasible in my garden.

It’s also a good reminder of progress, not perfection. Over the course of a year, our priorities shift and, similar to a snake shedding its skin, we, too, must release what we outgrow to make space for what’s to come.

During Summer TDJ Live, we contemplated our summer wish list, how our word/theme of the year had unfolded, and what we wanted the rest of the year to look and feel like. To me, this is an ongoing process—seasonal, monthly, weekly, daily.

In the words of Mary Oliver, “Listen—are you breathing just a little, and calling it a life?” I believe that reflection followed by action helps ensure we’re doing so much more.

Although I may not yet know my full why (see above quote), these moments of reflection help get me that much closer to clarity. And birthdays help! Bisous. x

Tranquilosophy: Take a Pause

In many a piece of music, it’s the pause or the rest that gives the piece its beauty and its shape. And I know I, as a writer, will often try to include a lot of empty space on the page so that the reader can complete my thoughts and sentences and so that her imagination has room to breathe.
—Pico Ayer

Mookie is barking. Gizmo is crying for me to lift the water bowl to his chair so he can drink without having to get down. The cat is knocking his bowl against the wall to indicate he’s out of food. The house is full of treats and sweet details packaged up for Saturday’s Yoga + the Animals and Sunday’s TDJ Soirée [join the waitlist]. My graphic designer is waiting on my edits to wrap up Sunday’s workbook design.

I notice the thin coating of black hair covering everything, yes everything, and realize the Pink Palace needs a deep clean before Mom arrives on Friday for 10 days. My desk is overflowing with paperwork that needs processing, drafts, a pink sketchbook filled with ideas, and an author proof copy of the Daybook that arrived last night. I call around trying to find someone to remove sutures from my latest gum graft as the periodontist has unexpectedly gone on medical leave.

Welcome to my morning.

Despite the chaos, I knew I had to make time for a pause. I enjoyed a green smoothie, tackled the to-dos I could manage, and hit the yoga mat before heading in to the office until late tonight.

It’s when life is at its craziest that our self-care often takes a back seat. After years of studying and teaching tranquility, I know how important these pauses can be.

Do they solve the pet hair, overflowing event supplies, or life’s unexpected setbacks? Nope, but they sure make the process more pleasurable.

What pause can you take today? Savor a cuppa tea, walk around the block, take five deep breaths, go to bed early, spend time with your journal, roll out your yoga mat, take a nap, call a friend, or thumb through a magazine.

Hit the pause button and tune in. Listen to your soul’s longings despite the barking dogs, crying kids, and buzzing phones. Just five minutes can make a BIG difference. Give your imagination room to breathe. Bisous. x

In Two Weeks . . .

After months of planning, I can’t believe in two weeks we’ll be together celebrating, dreaming, and learning at TDJ Soirée.

Curating the goody bags is always one of my favorite parts of hosting an event. I contemplate what would bring joy, a dash of luxury, and be useful to our guests.

Here’s a peek inside the luxe goody bags: rose quartz, face mask, handmade rose tea light, gold metal straw, gold pen, journal, parfum oil, handmade leopard-print bath bomb, and a card by artist Mary Catherine Starr.

Not shown CBD-infused skincare samples, Tranquility du Jour Daybook PDF, TranquiliT scarf, and a few more surprises—all tucked inside a reusable handmade velvet bag!

We have three tickets left and would love to have you with us. Here’s a taste of the sensory-filled experienceBisous. x